
What brand are you? I often will try generic brands at the store in order to save a few bucks. There are a few things, however, that I do not compromise on. I have to get the name brand. I want to know that when I buy that product it has a name behind it that has a proven track record with me.
What do people think when they hear your name? Our names represent a unique brand-a culmination of all our actions and behaviors. In our culture people, media and special interest groups often try to guilt trip people into changing their personal brand.
I'd like to share why I think it is a good thing for you to go against the grain and be yourself. I think that part of the reason American Christianity has a bad reputation is because of a widespread lack of genuineness.
I am me. Stephen Flint. I've found you either love me or hate me and I'm ok with that. There's usually no in between. I think that's in part because wherever I go and whoever I'm with you get the same 'brand' of me. When I'm with a group of dudes you will hear me act and speak the same way as if I were around a group of ladies. You might think I'm joking. I'm not. When I'm speaking to a homeless man or the CEO of my workplace you will get the same person. Those who know me well would probably verify this. If you talk to me at a party or wake me up at 2 am, the same speech, the same jokes, the same 'me' will emerge.
Now you might think that I'm bragging or that this is some lousy article about 'Jesus is always watching you' kind of deal but it's not. What I AM talking about is living your life consistently.Trust me, living this way can lead to some interesting encounters because everywhere you go people can sometimes have different expectations of how you should live your life, how you should talk, and how you should act. I refuse to conform to that. Now first let me tell you what I'm not saying about living consistently because there is often misunderstanding about this way of living.
1. It's not about being offensive
I know a lot of Christians who really believe that if we don't offend people then we are not living the gospel properly. Seriously? While the gospel is an offense to the world that doesn't mean the world MUST hate us or that we have to be a bunch of angry jerks.
In fact, Paul tells us that if we know there is something that would offend a brother or sister then we should by all means strive to avoid doing it. Offending people is never the goal.
2. It's not about being crude
When I say that I use the same speech and same jokes with everyone most people think I'm lying because it's easy to talk one way when you're around a bunch of Christians and another around the lost. Therein lies the real problem I think. You do realize the world sees that discrepancy right? They aren't fooled by our acting. I speak what I think is acceptable. I speak in public what I am in private. If my jokes are acceptable with the guys then they should be acceptable at church and vice versa.
Want to make me angry? Act one way in private and then rebuke me for that same behavior when you're around church buddies. It's called "Jesus Juking". I had a friend once that tried to get onto me for saying something they felt was off color (Even though it was about my wife who was present). Now my opinion on saying things of a suggestive nature to friends regarding my wife is that it's actually a good thing. I waited a long time to find her. She needs to see that that part of my mind is occupied by her. I guess there is a line in there somewhere where you wouldn't want to share too much info and gross people out but to elude to it, why not?
I'm a real person not some lame dude that never has any fun. That Victorian line of thought where things of a sexual nature cannot be acknowledged and must be ignored in public is damaging to marriages. It's not spiritual. If you do not say those kinds of things to your spouse someone else will gladly do it for you.
This same person had told me earlier how they couldn't wait to see the 'fifty shades of grey' movie and they had already gone to see a popular movie about male strippers. Hmmmm. A little inconsistency there you think? I guess me referring to the fact that I love my wife in 'every' way in public was too much but to watch movies about strippers and BDSM between two unmarried people is ok because it was done in private?? Maybe they were going to witness to all those other 'wicked perverts' in the theater?
3. It's not failing to tailor your message.
When I am addressing a group of fifth graders my words will be different than when I'm addressing a group of senior citizens. When I address someone in a church setting I use different terms than I do with the lost. This is not hypocrisy and it's not being inconsistent. It's called doing all things for all men that I might indeed save some.
When Paul wrote a letter to a church he would always include parts of scripture so they could identify with the message. When he addressed a lost group he would use less scripture and use examples from their culture that they could identify with.
In the world of sales it's called qualifying the customer. You basically find what they are looking for and try to meet that need with what you have to offer. Its smart. It's not being inconsistent.
4. It's not displaying your dirty laundry
There's a lot of confusion on this subject in relation to being authentic. While the Bible does say "Confess your faults one to another" I don't believe that means we should tell everyone about all of our private struggles. I think the writer intended that to mean faults between each other not every sin of the heart or speeding tickets we've ever gotten. I don't want to know everyone's deep dark secrets, it would scare me. I try to remember it this way, God can forgive and forget anything we do, but men cannot. It's not necessary to reveal every fault, every weakness, and every sin to others. We should, however, admit that we do struggle with sin without going into the nitty gritty details of it. Humans have a tendency to look at others sins and say, "Well I've never done anything like THAT before," and then excuse their own sins.
What being consistent IS about is being you-the real you-all the time. I'm thinking of a friend right now who recently got mad at me and for the first time I felt like they were being real with me. In a weird kind of way it made me happy to be talking with the real them even though I would have liked it under different circumstances. I would prefer to deal with a person who was angry with me and genuine about it than a person who says 'Have a blessed day' or 'I'm praying for you' or 'How have you been doing?' When they really don't care.
Guess what? The world wants the same thing from us. Now it might despise us because of the offense of Christ to some degree and that's ok. But it's tired of visiting churches across our nation and seeing people try to act all holy there but then acting a different way in the workplace. It's tired of fake phony Christianity. I agree with that viewpoint 100%. You know why? Because God is sick of it too. Our hypocrisy has reached His nostrils in Heaven and it stinks!
We should be repenting of our sin but instead we go to church every Sunday, put on our plastic faces and throw our hands up in worship, maybe even shed a tear for Him. That would be wonderful if it lasted for more than an hour a week. That would be world changing if it compelled us to change our falseness for good. But it doesn't. We continue our masquerade week after week year after year all the while expecting a lost person to come to our services, come to know the Lord, and become just like us. The world says, "Thanks,...but no thanks". It would rather wallow in it's sin than be a fraud.
So without delving into too much detail, let me give you the reasons I think it is better to be YOU than anyone else.
1. Because God made you that way on purpose!
2. Because you aren't happy until you get to show others who you are without the mask!
3. Because putting all of who you are up front with people in the beginning will save you lots of time and hurt down the road when they discover who you really are!
4. Because being the real you will draw the lost to you. They want to see what a real live Christian does in today's times!
5. Because your brand is beautiful so stick with it and stop trying to be someone else!
May God have mercy on us all! May we all be one and be genuine so that we can complete our mission of spreading the love of Christ to the world! God bless you all! (And I mean that!)